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Lolita Blog Carnival: What Are 6 Things You Would Tell A Beginner Not To Do Or Avoid

Lolita fashion, for all its limitations, has a dizzying variety of styles and themes. While I believe that rules are meant as ‘guidelines’ more than actual rules, there is a reason why we have the saying, ‘you need to walk before you can run’ – and there are some things I wish I had been told, as a beginner.

These are actually 6 items, by the way…

classical_puppets_a-line_petticoat_1-cp-20-creamYou really need a petticoat

‘But I have natural poof!’
‘But this skirt is already poofy!’

No and no. You do need the poof. Everybody needs the poof. You need to welcome the poof into your life, embrace it, and walk carefully around desks, glassware, and small children…

… wait, I lost my train of thought.

But the petticoat is a crucial part of modern lolita style. While there are old-school releases that are more casual and meant to be worn with minimal or deflated poof, you absolutely need the support from all that fluff to help spread out the gathers on a true lolita skirt. All the details and decorations will be lost if the skirt is not spread out.

How often you wear lolita, and your preferred styles, will determine which type of petticoat to buy. But it is an absolute must.


its ok cat memeCriticism is not bad

Everybody starts somewhere, and it is almost inevitable that you will be making some missteps along the way.

Sometimes it takes an outsider’s perspective to spot things that could have been better: but don’t take it personally!

Constructive criticism helps you improve your overall look. It may come off harsh at times, but you can pick up several tips on how to fix your problem areas.


mini-glitter-top-hatMini hats are more difficult to wear than full sized hats

This is a fact. The smaller the hat, the more difficult it is to wear, because of all the styling and fluffing you need to do to balance out this teeny brick on your head.

Also, halloween costume hats will always look like… well, costumes.


A dress does not a coordinate make


Lolita fashion is focused on coordination. So a single dress or main piece, in itself, is not a coordinate. You need the rest of the puzzle pieces: a blouse or top, legwear, matching shoes, headgear, jewelry- everything!

Whenever you purchase a main piece, you need to consider if you have all the pieces necessary to create a good coordinate. If you just put it together with perfectly ordinary pieces from your ‘normal’ wardrobe, it won’t look quite right.

That’s not to say you can’t use pieces you already own, but it does mean that you need to have a keen eye for spotting small details that will make an item usable for lolita. Just because it has lace and bows on it, doesn’t mean it will do- the cut and fit are important.


eroEro – not for beginners

Ero is one of the more difficult styles of lolita, because it involves a different set of rules! A shorter hem or going blouse-less with an ordinary coordinate does not automatically guarantee it works as ‘ero’. The coordinate should have a ‘mature’ look, but still very conservative compared to typical club wear.

Ero also sometimes uses materials like pleather and pvc, which don’t appear in the other styles.



Wa is hard. It is possibly the most difficult style to wear, aside from cyber lolita (which is practically mythical) There are a hundred different things that can go wrong when you are mashing two basically incompatible styles together: the hair accessories, makeup,  obi, legwear, and shoes. Sometimes even if everything is of excellent manufacture, it doesn’t work out because kitsuke has its own rules. In fact, wearing the exact same pieces with different undergarments can change the look entirely!

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Check out what these other lolitas had to say on this week’s LBC topic!

Floating on Macarons | Cupcake Kamisama’s Lolita World | The Bloody Tea Party

Petite Tomoyo | Gotas de Baunhilda | Queen & Commander | A Princess’ Fairytales


4 thoughts on “Lolita Blog Carnival: What Are 6 Things You Would Tell A Beginner Not To Do Or Avoid

  1. I agree with you so much on all of it! Recently I haven’t seen that many newbies attempting or mentioning doing an Ero coord, so I guess with the fact that they’re not the easiest to find reference pics for maybe people have calmed down a bit on that? One can only hope. But it still irks me when I see someone be like “It’s my first coord, yay” when all they have is a dress. I get pedantic with terminology, so just say “It’s my first dress/JSK/OP/main piece” and we’re all good.


    1. I understand that they must be really excited because it’s their first dress, but it really bothers me too when they just throw it on with no petti, socks, or shoes. It’s tricky finding a way to gently tell them that it’s not a coordinate.


  2. I have seen that certain people seem to discourage Lolitas, not to do certain things like doing Ero or going into detailed co-ords. I don’t think we should discourage any one to do anything and even hope that the frenzy for a certain controversial Lolita fashion is gone. Where do we draw the line that one is no longer a beginner? Instead of that we should give the necessary con-crit and encourage them to experiment more, within the rules and guidelines. It is a good thing you mentioned why mini-hats are inappropriate for beginners and how to wear it so as not to look bad. I this is the way to go. In this way beginners will not feel discouraged since it is a much better way than saying that one should not experiment now since one is a beginner. These are just my two cents.


    1. Hello Rei, thank you for your reply! This wasn’t written to scare newbies in the fashion away from a certain style. ^^ I wrote it based on my own experiences. In my early days in the fashion I broke several rules because I was doing my ‘own’ thing, which I regret now. At the time, I didn’t receive any real advice as to how to improve, and there were so many mistakes that could have been averted if I’d started off with simpler styles. I don’t want to tell people outright ‘you can’t wear this!’ only that it might be better to take it slowly, to do research and collect the necessary pieces to make the coordinate better.

      The local scene is still very strongly rooted in the cosplay community. Wa and Ero are among the two most popular ‘lolita’ costumes, usually paired with anime hair, which is why until the person develops an eye for quality, I try to guide them toward safer styling. It’s not about how long they’ve been in the style. Our comm in general place strong emphasis on the ‘daily’ aspects of the fashion to make it distinct from the cos-comm.


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